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This is my go-to, or at least one of my go-to teas for when I’m upset.
Hubby said he wants to go to his niece’s wedding next month. In Georgia. On the 21st. And he was thinking of doing Christmas with the family there.
Say what?!
I’m incredibly upset at the thought he would rather spend Christmas there, several thousands of miles away from me. I know, I’m the Jew, but since being married, we’ve always celebrated Christmas together in our small and intimate agnostic way. We have a few traditions. Am I being incredibly selfish to not want him to be with his family at the expense of being away from me? There’s other, more personal reasons why this news upsets me too.
I’ve been crying off an on since he told me, and I’m tearing up now just writing this…
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I’m guessing you can’t go due to work and finances? That’s super tough. I hope you and he can talk about it and reach an understanding. :/
Pretty much. I’ve used up all my vacation time for the year, but also, I work retail, so….yeah.
I wish I could invite you over for my annual movie watching tradition. I think it’s the Hobbit this year. Sadly, it’s a bit of a long trip, especially on a holiday.
I can’t really comment as to whether or not you’re being selfish, because I’d likely react in entirely the same way, and that kind of ruins my perspective. But I’m just sensitive and tend to get upset when he doesn’t “want what I want” when what I want is to spend time with him. Like, doesn’t he want that as desperately as I do? don’t our traditions mean to him what they do to me? so yeah, I get it. 100%. But just remember that there’s room in his heart for more than one person, even though he loves you all in very different ways. and that honestly, finding a partner for whom family is really important is so wonderful in the long run. Because you’re his family too now.
It’s just rotten timing, and he was away for half of October, half of August, and earlier this year as well.
I’m guessing you can’t go due to work and finances? That’s super tough. I hope you and he can talk about it and reach an understanding. :/
Pretty much. I’ve used up all my vacation time for the year, but also, I work retail, so….yeah.
I wish I could invite you over for my annual movie watching tradition. I think it’s the Hobbit this year. Sadly, it’s a bit of a long trip, especially on a holiday.
I can’t really comment as to whether or not you’re being selfish, because I’d likely react in entirely the same way, and that kind of ruins my perspective. But I’m just sensitive and tend to get upset when he doesn’t “want what I want” when what I want is to spend time with him. Like, doesn’t he want that as desperately as I do? don’t our traditions mean to him what they do to me? so yeah, I get it. 100%. But just remember that there’s room in his heart for more than one person, even though he loves you all in very different ways. and that honestly, finding a partner for whom family is really important is so wonderful in the long run. Because you’re his family too now.
It’s just rotten timing, and he was away for half of October, half of August, and earlier this year as well.