I’m in a weird place right now; one that I’ve never really been in before and that I’m not sure how to navigate – and when I opened up to Tre about it he basically called me crazy and we got in this huge debate/fight and I guess that’s led to my opening up to you guys on Steepster about it?
http://globalnews.ca/news/1263356/18-year-old-charged-with-attempted-murder-2/
I found that article by accident today while looking up some other reports on things going on in Regina (updates on the Cornwall Stabbings and on the arrest of Peter Labarbera and Bill Whatcott for their anti-gay rights protest at the U of R, and subsequent arrest – some serious stuff is going down in Regina as of late). Normally I think I would have just glazed over the article, except for one crucial thing…
I know Tristan. I grew up with him; we went to elementary school together and highschool up until he dropped out. We were never the type of “friends” who interacted during school hours but he was the sort of friend who I would FB at one or two in the morning to have those late night, depressing conversations with were both parties kind of bare their soul a little bit.
This is even an “excerpt” I said in one of our late night conversations a few months after I moved to Saskatoon.
“But yeah – as long as what you’re doing isn’t harmful to another person (like going around stabbing people just for kicks) I think you should be able to do whatever makes you happiest.”
I just feel really… Shellshocked. And a huge part of me wants to reach out to both here his side of things and just see how he’s doing too. Tre thinks that’s wrong of me; that he’s clearly guilty and that people’s past and the trauma they’ve experienced shouldn’t warrant my guilt or his forgiveness. In part I think he’s right, but still. He was/is a friend; why is it wrong of me to want to reach out to him?
Oh well; at least this tea is light and fruity and just divine enough to put my mind somewhat at ease for now. But I don’t think this is something I can just “move on” from like Tre thinks should be easy for me to do.
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1) Your feelings about this are your feelings, and as such are perfectly valid.
2) I am so sorry this has happened. I’m not sure what I would want to do in a similar situation. If you want to see how he’s doing, that’s totally an option. He might not want to see you, though.
You’re right – it IS a big deal, and if I were in your place, I’d probably be feeling the same way you are about it. hugs
Agree with OMG & Sami…you you have to go through this
I agree with OMG that your feelings are valid because you are feeling them. Period. Also, if you want to reach out to him, go for it. It seems to me that the article you read doesn’t go in to the circumstances surrounding the event. I know it’s probably weird for me to comment on this because I don’t know you, but my brother faced a manslaughter charge and a lot of terrible stuff was written in the papers about him and my family. Most of it was not at all true. I still loved and supported him. I’d rather not go in to details publicly, but if you did want to message about it, feel free to pm me.
1) Your feelings about this are your feelings, and as such are perfectly valid.
2) I am so sorry this has happened. I’m not sure what I would want to do in a similar situation. If you want to see how he’s doing, that’s totally an option. He might not want to see you, though.
You’re right – it IS a big deal, and if I were in your place, I’d probably be feeling the same way you are about it. hugs
Agree with OMG & Sami…you you have to go through this
I agree with OMG that your feelings are valid because you are feeling them. Period. Also, if you want to reach out to him, go for it. It seems to me that the article you read doesn’t go in to the circumstances surrounding the event. I know it’s probably weird for me to comment on this because I don’t know you, but my brother faced a manslaughter charge and a lot of terrible stuff was written in the papers about him and my family. Most of it was not at all true. I still loved and supported him. I’d rather not go in to details publicly, but if you did want to message about it, feel free to pm me.